I had to go pick up some medicine on Sunday morning and he stayed at my house. While I was gone, he looked through the pictures on my computer and saw pics of me and past boyfriends. By the time I got home, he had completely changed his mind and 100% wanted the abortion. We argued, I asked him to leave. Since then, his mind has not changed about the abortion, he has broken up with me and has also told me that he “never loved me, doesnt love me and never will love me”. He blocked me on facebook and has now blocked my email address. We arent teenagers- I am 31!
I dont even know what to ask about the above- I am simply in shock and heartbroken. He has made it clear he wont be here for me or the baby. If you have any insight into his behavior, I would love to hear it. Or anything encouraging. The main question i have is, does he have any responsibility to help financially before the baby is born?
You point out that you are 31, yet you got pregnant with an emotionally abusive man like a teenager would. So own up to some of your own poor choices before you point out his. You are in a difficult situation no doubt. You need to consult with an attorney about his owing child support I imagine he will owe it though. What I would suggest is that if you keep this baby you consider adopting it out. It will be unfair to the child to not have a father figure in it’s life and if it does have one this guy will be unstable. Everything you describe about him is unstable. The second thing I would suggest is that you seek out some therapy to figure out how to get a bit more emotionally stable in your own life. You and he obviously weren’t good for one another, but you kept going back to him. At some point you need to determine what is best for you and he wasn’t. If you don’t get things figured out then he will be your friend again and you will get back together with him and this emotional roller coaster will happen all over again.