My name is Allena. Im 19 yrs old and Iv’e been blessed with a bestfriend i have known since kindergarden, his name is Taylor (also 19). Growing up we just got closer and closer and did everything together. We never really dated though mainly because we were in relationships with other people. After we graduated from high school together we had even more time to spend together and it was awesome. We didnt mind spending every day together as long as we were next to eachother. We could be open with eachother so easily. Taylor would tell me how much he loved me as a person and how I could always make his day.
All our friends would ask” why dont yall just go out?” or “you know that boy would do anything for you right?” and i would agree cause i felt the same way, but i just didnt want a relatioship..especially with my bestfriend. I guess i felt like i didnt wanna risk it. How stupid was I.
I felt like this was reasonable, I mean, I wouldnt want my boyfriend hanging out with some chick all the time but maybe it would be diffrent if this chick knew him since diaper hood!
David, im feeling so upset. I feel like all this is my fault. I feel like i made the mistake of not giving Tay a shot..even though..i already know he would give me the world. I know I could make him just as happy, i feel the motivation to make sure this mans day goes as smoothly as i can make possible. But is it because he’s with another chick? or is this real? I feel so sad because i know i wont be seeing him as much but we both have power over that. I just want whats best but i feel whats best..is me. ='( if its too late, what else is there for me to do?
I think one of the best ways to start a romantic relationship is with someone who is your best friend. Obviously I’m biased because I married my best friend. I think you are still young and chances are this friend will not have this GF long-term. You have two choices. You can maintain the close friend relationship and not say anything about your feelings. The other choice is you can take a chance and let him know how you feel about him and then see what happens. Life is about choices. I can’t make the choice for you. You have to decide knowing yourself and your best friend. I believe this relationship won’t last if what you say is true about her selfishness. He didn’t realize what he had in you and that’s probably because you didn’t realize what you had in him.
- August 16, 2012 (blackvelvetconfessional.wordpress.com)