Teens and parents the saga continues…

	QUESTION: Trying to find ways to get along with my 17 year old daughter.I seem to be very strick with her due to some wrong choices she made starting at 15. i myself is having problems leaving it in the past,i feel its still going on, but what is it u allow them to do,i am so lost of even a cuewfew, i have lost trust for her and i dont no how to regain it, my daughter is my world and we do great when we are not fighting and i feel if i dont chill out i am going to lose her or she is going to be so wild when she leaves,how do u regain the trust,what is a good cufew
	ANSWER: I think a great curfew is in bed by 10 on weekdays and then home by 12 on weekends. Yet, I believe that should be the least of your worries right now. I think you may want to consider seeing a family therapist. They could give you some insight on how to have a more effective relationship with your daughter. I have a feeling she wants to be independent, but also wants a relationship with you and doesn’t really know how to do it either so she tries and then gives up. This is often a challenging time for parents and teens. Seeking out help could help you both have a more fulfilling relationship as she prepares to leave your home. David www.help4life.net

QUESTION:

Trying to find ways to get along with my 17 year old daughter.I seem to be very strick with her due to some wrong choices she made starting at 15. i myself is having problems leaving it in the past,i feel its still going on, but what is it u allow them to do,i am so lost of even a cuewfew, i have lost trust for her and i dont no how to regain it, my daughter is my world and we do great when we are not fighting and i feel if i dont chill out i am going to lose her or she is going to be so wild when she leaves,how do u regain the trust,what is a good cufew

ANSWER:

I think a great curfew is in bed by 10 on weekdays and then home by 12 on weekends. Yet, I believe that should be the least of your worries right now. I think you may want to consider seeing a family therapist. They could give you some insight on how to have a more effective relationship with your daughter. I have a feeling she wants to be independent, but also wants a relationship with you and doesn’t really know how to do it either so she tries and then gives up. This is often a challenging time for parents and teens. Seeking out help could help you both have a more fulfilling relationship as she prepares to leave your home.
David
www.help4life.net