I met with a young dating couple last night. I have met with them a few times over the past several weeks. As it was our last meeting I attempted to summarize what I thought their struggle was going to be here on out.
I kept coming back to the idea that when you are dating someone you are gathering information. Complaining about certain behaviors, certain words etc…may make yourself feel better, but for the most point it’s useless. When you are dating you should be looking at gathering information and then make an informed decision about the future of the relationship.
I know it’s unromantic, especially on Valentine’s day. Yet, putting feelings aside to assess the data you have on the person is important. If you are not going to be okay that your significant other isn’t that romantic, then you may want to find someone who is a bit more romantic. If you are not okay with a persons religious ideas then you should find someone who is more comptatible with what you beleive. It’s easy to get caught up in the emotions heck, it’s what movies are made about. “Follow your heart…do what feels good.” The reality is if you follow your heart your relationship will probably not last for the long haul. There are the exceptions, but those are just that, exceptions. Bottomline: Do your research and make an informed choice. If you do you will have a much more peaceful, joyful and long-term relationship.