I’m 51. Divorced once. Dating for 4 years since my divorce. I want to get married again. Although my marriage ended in divorce I’m for marriage. I like the team, future common goals, commitment, etc.
|It’s not often that I find a question refreshing, but I found yours to be so. It is well though out and not irrational. You actually are trying to figure something out and you seem willing to carefully consider both sides. I don’t think you are overreacting and I do think that people really want to get married. The problem you have is that you have invested years hoping this guy would change when all along he has told you he is not interested in marriage. It also sounds from what you say that you won’t be able to change his mind. So you have to decide if you are going to stay or not. I disagree with him about men wanting to get married. Marriage is difficult and many don’t want to have to man up and make the covenant and commitment and thus simply live together with really no commitment. I think it is admirable that you want marriage. The problem is your man doesn’t so what will you do? If you want to get married then you need to break it off and when you do find another guy be very up front with him and ask him what he wants long-term in the relationship. It sounds like you are dating for marriage not for fun, thus you need to find someone who is like-minded.|