I know it’s really common for teenagers to not get along with parents
Ok the picture you paint at the beginning of your question is much different than the picture you paint at the end. I think your independence is getting in the way of the good relationship you need to have with your parents. In their minds you are probably growing up too fast and doing too much and they don’t know any way else to keep giving you guidance. When they try you just get irritated. Unless you are able to step back a moment and recognize that you are still 16 and parents are supposed to help you with this direction you will continue to have a bad relationship. If you can’t do this I really think you should suggest family counseling. Not doing either of these things will keep you stuck in place.