||I am a 43 year old/year old female who has been dating this man who is now 52. He keeps saying that he wants to make a commitment, but has not as of yet. I have been very patient. However, over the last 6 months, I met a man on-line, then met him for lunch, etc. We get along great. He is 41 and we seem to have a lot in common. I still care for this man I have dated for the last 5 years, but I feel more alive with the 41 year old/o. I think I have fallen in love with both of them. Is this possible? The man I have dated for 5 years, now comes and goes in and out of my house at his leisure. It really is upsetting me. Plus, my daughter who is 14 is getting upset about him as well. How do I break off from him nicely and without hurting him.