|Question:||My son and I have always had a very close relationship and I have been so proud of his honesty…until he hit high school. He has gone from an A-B student to C’s and D’s, swears he is not on drugs, and treating his step-father (been with him since toddler years) with great disrespect. On top of that, he has been lying about his homework saying he did it and he didn’t or he did all but two and there are 10 not done on a worksheet. I’m personally sick of talking to him about this and I know he has got to be sick of hearing it. He is a smart kid and capable of A’s and B’s in all subjects. The punishment for lying has always been “double punishment” but I’m at a loss for what to do as nothing seems to be working. We have taken privileges away, no friends over, no video games, offered to help him and have helped him with the homework. He’s never had to open a book before this year and gotten A-B grades and this year he doesn’t even want to do his homework. HELP!
I would imagine something is going on in his life that you may not be aware of. I would suggest you go and speak with teachers and see if they can pinpoint what they see the problem being. I would say he still needs to have consequences for his behavior, but I would think something else is going on if there had been such a huge change for him. If he is willing to see a counselor I would encourage it. Maybe talking to someone other than you would be helpful to him.