|Question:||I just want to thank you in advance for your time.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about five months. He is a wonderful guy, he works hard, he is a great Christian man, he is active in church and he cares a lot about me. That being said, he doesn’t communicate very well when he is upset. Rather, he doesn’t communicate at all with me when he is upset for at least a day, usually two or three. And it’s always over little things. Also, he talks disrespectfully to his mom. That really bothered me and I feel like that says a lot. Lastly, I’m not in love with him. I don’t feel crazy about him and he doesn’t about me. When I brought that up to him, he said that there isn’t a time limit for these things.
By the way, I’m 23, and he’s 28.
I’m just starting to feel like things continue to not work. But I do like him, and I know he likes me. I just don’t want to give up too soon, but I don’t want to ignore red flags either. What I am really trying to figure out is…is it time to break up?
Dating is about gathering information. When you have enough information you have to make an informed opinion before your feelings could your JUDGEMENT. So based on what you have said I think you have ENOUGH information to make a good DECISION. I have capitalized words because they have nothing to do with feelings. Feelings tend to make people stay in bad relationships. Use your BRAIN and make a good decision with the information that you have. Breaking up doesn’t mean he is a bad guy it means he is not the right guy for you.